



“I, Clark Kent, take you Lois Lane to be my companion, forever. And with you by my side I will never be alone…”
Companionate love meets our need to know that we are not alone. When we have companionate love, we have a companion who likes us and who knows that we will walk through life together in good times and in bad. Our companion enjoys our being and is comfortable when we are around. This person can trust us to be a listening ear and give assistance when it is needed. If terrible things happen, we will understand and be there. And our companion will do the same for us. Companionate love assures us that we are not alone. It is essential that marital love include companionate love. When we choose a spouse, the quality of the friendship and companionship is perhaps the most important predictor of marital success (Rubin, 1985). To have a spouse who loves us in this way means having a good and true friend, and one whose life is parallel to our own…
Hargrave, Terry D. The Essential Humility of Marriage: Honoring the Third Identity in Couple Therapy. Phoenix, AZ: Zeig, Tucker & Theisen, 2000.
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